Archive for December, 2005

to stay or not to stay - the question to be

Friday, December 30th, 2005

Warning: This will be a long one!

Stranger

“If you decided to stay, you have to put your social life aside… on hold…” And that comes from a woman that already has a man by her side. A family. Someone to return to from work every single day. But still, people make an issue about medical students staying in uk/Ireland/Australia after graduating. These people are somewhat concerned. They come from different background and career but they are, concerned.

It’s materialistic. The country needs you more. Don’t be selfish. You owe the government and each of us big time. Come back and serve! Familiar? Like it will overcome the shortage of doctors is an instant. Like it will make the health service tip top in no time.

Endless arguments. Neverending issue. Countless warning. Overwhelming opinions. Trying to remain impartial is difficult. It is tempting to join the crowd. It is even more so when one is the subject of discussion. When one is indeed the object of arguments.

Putting things in perspective has been a major task. Consuming every tiny space left in brain, battling with every possibility that one can think off. Judging and making risk assessment. Together with the generous advices given, for and against. How can one choose for oneself?

Most end up deciding based on their needs. Their priority. Their concern. Their willingness to take the risk. It should be respected regardless of the decision made as none of this is an easy decision, be it to go back home or to stay. Yes, to be given the opportunity to study abroad is a blessing. But what people often overlooked is the unique situation that we are thrown into.

Working abroad or home will never make us feel belong right away, neither home nor away. We are somewhere in the middle. We are foreigner no matter how long we stay abroad and we are still that overseas doctor if we returned home. The system is different. And in the end, we are really deciding based on what we think are good for us at that point in time. We might regret it later. We might feel that is the best decision we make in our life. But it is our life after all and we are the one living the life.

To be honest, most of the people I know only want to stay for a couple of years, not more. Just to get registered for the GMC, the General Medical Council that will allow us to practice practically anywhere in the world. To take the opportunity as we are regarded as local graduates and thus, get the automatic access to registration with the GMC, Just to get a head start for a life once one decided to go back – some money, some basic, some experience – considering the time one has spent in university when our schoolmates doing other courses already had a career, a car and possibly a PhD by the time we graduated. We all want to be home at the end. But some just need to stay a bit longer, to get what their heart desire, to be at par, to be where they want to be. It is merely a delay.

And people regard those who stay as selfish, materialistic. But how do one judge another for the decision they make? Have you been in the other’s shoes? Do you know how lonely it gets when batch after batch of friends come and left you? Ever been so helpless but the only person you feel like talking to is thirteen hours flight away and the time difference make it impossible? Ever experience missing the big events in your family just because you are away? Yes, it is indeed a choice to be in that place when one can choose comfort but who are we to tell whether it’s the right or the wrong decision to make?

And now it is back to the point, the government has paid for you and it is time to serve. Just because one chooses to become a doctor, does it mean that his or her whole life will be spent only to serve regardless of his or her well-being? Regardless of his or her need? Just because one signed the contract, one life is no longer within one power?

I apologize in advance but have you notice the look of the doctors in the local hospital? Oh maybe not, because what you see is the private doctor in his BMW or mercedez and you think all doctor makes money. And you wonder why the country is still short of doctors when the government endlessly send students years after years all over the world to study medicine. And you actually think that to actually get these few hundreds doctor in UK/Ireland/Australia home will solve the issue. Seriously, would it?

Why do we pay extra money for medicine and saying things like, “Can I get free consultation once you are a doctor?” to our friends who are a doctor. Why do we pay for private hospital when there are free government hospitals? We pay for taxes but we also need to pay extra for the health service. How many clinics are there around your house? Chances are there will be more than two. And we are still short of doctors? Why? Has anyone wondered? Does it make sense? I think there is a bigger issue here that should be solved. The root cause of why we don’t have enough government doctors. The reason why our national health service is not improving tremendously.

The reason why we are still short of doctors is definitely not because of these few that decided to stay for a few more years. Yes, those who probably decided to stay here forever should probably no longer have the Malaysian nationality but that is another case altogether. Besides, back to previous question I imposed, would these few solve our main issue anyway? What are the real reasons behind our shortage of doctors? Why the medical students even get the advices to stay for a bit before returning home from the doctors back home?

Ask your local doctors back home why they work in the private sectors? Ask them why they run away from the government hospital? Ask the doctors in the government hospital why they need the extra hours working as locum in private clinics? Ask them whether their well-being is well taken care off? Ask them whether they think they are paid deservingly?

Ask them.

Care for them.

After all, you are the one paying the tax.

Only when you start to care, you will also be cared for. And maybe one day, our health care system will be one of the best in the world. And if you are wondering what is my decision. The truth is I am still deciding. When the time is right, the decision will be made. But rest assured, my heart is in Malaysia… always. .

bah

Friday, December 30th, 2005

mak njang termenung di muka pintu. air dah mula surut. anak beranak dah mula pulang ke rumah. selut lumpur perlu dibersihkan. padi perlu dijenguk. entah reput entah masih hidup.

"teruk bah kali ni nooo…" sayup kedengaran suara di telinga mak njang…

"lepaih 30 tahun tak dak bah, ni la paling teruk… ayaq naik sampai bumbung…"

"mujuq sangat laa dah surut nih…"

mak njang melontar pandang. sawah bendang tenang kelihatan. seperti tiada apa yang terjadi. burung masih berterbangan. kelihatan di matanya pak njang terbongkok-bongkok di tengah sawah. memeriksa padi yang tinggal. "elok lagikah?" desus hati mak njang. ikut hati mahu saja dia menurut tapi kesihatannya tak mengizinkan. usia memamah dirinya.

bulan sepuluh tempoh hari bukan main kemaraunya. semua risau. semua bimbang. manakan padi nak hidup kalau tak turun hujan. kalau tak naik airnya. tali-tali air hampir kering dipam airnya. pam air dan salur getah laku di kedai kedai. yang tak mampu meminjam. yang berduit lebih beli sendiri. semuanya nak penuhkan air di petak sendiri. nak mula menanam sebelum ramadhan menjelang. kini?

mak njang masih tak lepas pandang. tak jemu jemu dia. padi itulah nadinya. padi itulah hidupnya. padi itulah yang menyaranya selama ini. padi itulah rezeki anaknya sampai ke universiti. padi itulah baktinya di bumi.

"alhamdulillah subhanallah masyaAllah" bisik hati mak njang perlahan…

hujan. boleh jadi kawan, boleh jadi lawan. boleh jadi rahmat, boleh jadi bencana. semuanya pada kuasa-Nya.

Sawah

something about me

Wednesday, December 28th, 2005

Snowman_1 1.Color of most clothes you own
i think i starts to accumulate more black clothes again though i have quite a bunch of blue, white and red stuffs

2.Number of pillows you sleep with?
3 pillows + 2 cushions + big pooh

3.What room are you in right now?
rectangle room, 2nd floor

4.What were you doing 12AM last night?
burning cd of pics for friends

5.How old will you be 10 years from now?
that will be 34 years old…

or to be precise, 33 years 1 month and 19 days old…

hehehe

6.What do you think you’ll be doing in 10 years?

not quite sure…

7.Do you have braces?
used to… not anymore

8.Are you paranoid?
not really

9.Describe your wallet?
like my adinda, milk teddy but in creamy choc colour

10.Your alarm clock?
blueish ikea alarm clock and handphones

11.Your hair?
unique to me

12.Tooth brush?
blue and white

13.What color are your eyes?
dark brown according to the passport… heh

14.First enemy?
don’t think i have one or i must have forgotten…

15.First play/musical/performance?
let see… 9 years old dancing to jingly nona

16.Last movie seen?
in cinema? - chronicles of narnia

17.Last person you yelled at?
i don’t yell - must be ages since i last did that

18.Last crush?
hmm… scoffield? haha… or andy from x-factor…

19.Last shoes worn?
the old black boot

20.Last ice cream eaten?
now i feel like eating one… it’s been a while

21.Last thing written by hand?
etty’s address

22.Last time wanting to die?
i guess i still wanna live despite everything… hehe

23. When was the last time u went out @ night?
must be last wednesday… =P

24. What were you doing last night?
burn the cds and sleep and sleep and sleep

25. Why do you like yourself?
it’s like an experiment of lfe - unpredictable

26. What are your plans for tomorrow?
return the unwanted goods and post a cd to a friend

27. What was the last thing you won?
3rd place in a bowling tournament - as a group

28. When was the last time you got angry?
hmm… angry with myself? this afternoon…

29. What was the last song you heard?
intan kesepian by wings

30. When was the last time you entered a club?
nah… it wasn’t me…

31. what is it about the opposite $ex (physically)?
dimple? eyes? hair? not so sure…

32. what are the three things that you cannot live without everyday (besides water and oxygen)?
sleep, food, phone or internet

33. current music that’s playing?
radio is on - not sure who’s music is on at the moment

34. can you list THREE things that are taking up space on your table?
laptop, junks, handphones

35. What do you want to do now?
read ‘the 5 people you meet in heaven’

36. what’s the colour of your room?
off white - creamy white

37. what’s the first thing you ate this morning?
nothing

38. what shampoo do you use?
pantene

39. how many people do you have on your friendster?
1++

40. what’s that one music album you never got over?
i think it’s ‘the best of kopratasa’

41.favourite day of the week? why?
must be friday because i need the weekend to unwind

42. did you do anything stupid in the past 24 hours?

maybe…

43. did anything useful in the past hour?
none - sleeping all day, no food no nothing

43. what’s your MSN/Yahoo! id right now?
xitayx

44. if you could change your name,what would it be?
not ever, the meaning means a lot…

45. played any musical instruments?
tried guitar but never a master

box till me drop =P

Tuesday, December 27th, 2005

ok. i am not taking a boxing class. neither it was a kickboxing lesson… but indeed i am boxed by the sales going around at boxing day. it’s on the 26th and 27th of december, the time when most shops want to get rid of stocks and make a huge discounts at early morning hours… yes, one of the shop opened at 5 a.m. and already people are queing to get the best deal. *subuh pun tak masuk lagi tau*… he he he… talk about shoppaholic and crazy deals… isk isk isk.. dan sayugia dimaklumkan kini akan terpaksa menguruskan kewangan dengan jitu… *mixed feeling*…

anyway anyhoo… i think i am a little less impulsive this year. hmm… agree? hehe. only some will know exactly how much damage done…

another interesting point to make is to actually realise that 2006 is nearing in a few days. hmm… i should start some serious studying but i am buying some time still. it’s a precious time to detox before starting to intoxicate myself with more and even more medicine. a friend wonder whether i am still sane… well, here’s my answer. i think i still do - apart from being boxed… hehe… but enough of that as i’m sure more will come later…

i hereby take the opportunity to wish all of you a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!… may the new year brings you more happiness, love, success, glory and satisfaction to your heart and may the past year taught us lessons that we can embrace for the future… as i would like to remember and always do,

"carpe diem!!" *seize the moment*

p/s: i think i am allergic at the moment but dunno at what… how? *blur*

visit to the past…

Thursday, December 22nd, 2005

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the past cannot be revisited ever, but always remain as a part of self… forever

- self quote

istilah bercinta

Thursday, December 22nd, 2005

kau kata kau cinta kau kata kau sayang

kini entah di mana tiada lagi kemesraan

kau kata setia hanya aku saja

tapi hilang ke mana tiada lagi kenangan

kutabahkan hati kugenggam azimat

untuk kubalut luka semakin mendalam

biar kuhadapi walaupun tergugat

akan kubenamkan biar jadi debu

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kini kumengerti istilah sebenar di dalam bercinta

tiada kepastian tiada penentuan akan kebahagiaan

semua pecinta haruslah berkorban tiada batasan

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by: ramli sarip

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i wish those who are on the way to marriage or those who are already married stay in happiness and embrace all there is to life as a husband and a wife forever. this is a quote from the book tuesdays with morries

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"I’ve learned this much about marriage," he said now. "You got tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you accomodate or don’t."

Is there some kind of rule to know if a marriage is going to work?

Morrie smiled. "Things are not that simple, Mitch."

I know.

"Still," he said, "there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you cannot talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.

"And the biggest one of those values, Mitch?"

Yes?

"Your belief in the importance of your marriage."

He sniffed, then closed his eyes for a moment.

"Personally," he sighed, his eyes still closed, "I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you’re missing a hell of a lot if you don’t try it."

He ended the subject by quoting the poem he believed in like a prayer: "Love each other or perish."

sentuhan listrikmu

Sunday, December 18th, 2005

bisakah aku bertanya padamu

di mana datang sayang ini

di redup matamu

atau bisikan mesra

adakah kerna sentuhan listrikmu

m’buatku terus berjanji

hati ini hanya milikmu saja

sentuhanmu bukan datang dari

dunia materi

terasa ini pernah mengusikmu

bagai de javu

kurindu sentuhanmu

kudamba sentuhanmu

tiada lain yang kuinginkan

hanyalah… hanya sentuhanmu

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by: m. nasir

tuesdays with morrie

Sunday, December 18th, 2005

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i am no bookworm. i only read when i am into it. but when a book interests me, i can finish it in a day, or two - if the book is thick. i just finished a book in a day and i highly recommended this to anyone,

TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE by Mitch Albom…

i love this book. i might get one for myself - i am borrowing it at the moment. it’s a simple book, casually written but full of meanings. i would say that it gave an overview of life and all there is to living. the big Q’s of life is answered in a sweet laidback tale of a dying professor. the lessons of life.

it’s about death

it’s about fear

it’s about aging

it’s about greed

it’s about marriage

it’s about family

it’s about society

it’s about forgiveness

it’s about a meaningful life

i don’t think i can do any justice by reflecting on it here. you just have to read it to understand… but i just have to say… love it!

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the X-factor

Saturday, December 17th, 2005

heh… not talking about any particular x-factor but simply about one of the reality show in uk, somewhat like akademi fantasia but with 3 different categories - the under 25, the over 25 and group performances…

hmm… been following it for some time now and i actually surprised myself with how much i wanted this over 25 guy to win… the lovable ANDY with his generous voice… big voice with a big heart… hahaha… he should be the winner - that’s it!!! he has the X-factor… not than shane and journey south is any less but andy is the man… hehe… and not to forget the lovable and marvelous superfantastic brenda who is just unfortunate not to be in the final…

just imagine having a dustbin-man that sings like that… "wowww!!!"…. this is a picture of andy in his final performance… awesome man!!!

he is still my WINNER even though shane actually won tonight… sob… sob…

Andy

i cannot believe i put in an entry for this thing… ahahaha…

sudoku madness

Friday, December 16th, 2005

hmm… been playing the online version 2 nights in a row, done 50 ‘easy’ sudoku puzzles with average time of 7 minutes and 6 seconds and the fastest time of 4 minutes and 26 seconds… nearly bought the sudoku magazine booklet the other day… my oh my… what have i done? crazy i tell you… ahahaha

oh please get me away from this sudoku thing… i am officially addicted!!! hehe… lagi teruk dari solitaire madness… isk isk… have to find a way out of this soon… sudoku anynomous somewhere???

in case you are wondering what on earth i am going about here… it’s a puzle… try at this website —> http://www.websudoku.com/… this is the example of sudoku… looks ridiculous but once addicted, you’re done!

Sudoku

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p/s: the holiday finally starts… hoorahhh!!!… i am so looking forward for the holiday though i have not plan what to do… ehehe…